Why are we easily hurt?

Why are we easily hurt? How can we prevent or build up our resistance to such hurts? The answers from Sinology and the Bible.
The Typical Advice from Christians:

Here is a typical answer from or for believers like me:

"It’s unfortunate that offenses ever occur, but the Bible indicates that if we keep our focus upon God and His Word, He will maintain such peace in our heart that we can become resistant to offenses. “Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them” (Psa. 119:165 KJV). Obviously, offensive things will still come our way, but we need not be offended by them. The Lord is our reliable source of peace in all the circumstances of this life. “You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You” (Isaiah 26:3).“ (from http://www.victorious.org/pub/offenses-freedom-122).

Are you happy with the answer? Just believe in Jesus. 
(It is not that the Bible is wrong but rather it is the interpretation and the use of the Bible verses inappropriately that hurt people even more. Do some people use the Bible like Donald Trump's way of talking!?

The Wisdom from Sinology

Let me give you some answer from Sinology, Guo Xue.

《庄子·应帝王》 “至人用心若镜,不将不迎,应而不藏,故能胜物而不伤”。

If people have a heart like a mirror (i.e. no prejudices, selflessness), don't insist (control, holding on) and don't follow, responding without withholding, then they can handle all things without being hurt.

Zhuang Zi is the follower of Lao Zi. The one who told us of his butterfly dream and wondering whether we are in the dream of a butterfly! Going back to what he said.

We see that the reasons for our hurt come from the existence of our ego, expectation, prejudices, face etc. If only we can fully pure like a mirror, and just reflect back what it receives, then we will be fine.
The key then is let us not be too self-sensitive. It is not about me but about others. We know hurt people hurt people. People who hurt us are suffering themselves. Are we able to switch our attention from us to them?

To be selflessness, to be empty of ourselves are not easy. We know of many religions that tell us to do that.

It is not emptying but being secured
It is possible when we are secured. How can we be secured? The Bible gives us the answer. We are loved by God. We are children of God. God will take good care of us. Knowing that we have the heavenly Father taking care of us and we have nothing to worry gives us the security to be less concern with ourselves and more concern with others.

So the answer in not about less of our ourselves, but more of the knowledge of His love for us. Replacing us with Christ, being the image of Christ, is the answer and not removing ourselves.

So, you can see how Sinology helps us to have a greater understanding of men and issues and how the Bible provides the right answer for us.

What do you think?

Lim Liat (c) 16 Jan 2017


The Great Blessing at the End of Trial - Amos 9:13

Amos 9:13  Behold, the days come, saith the LORD, that the plowman shall overtake the reaper and the treader of grapes him that soweth seed; and the mountains shall drop sweet wine, and all the hills shall melt. 
The book of Amos is about the discipline of the Lord. Discipline is different from punishment. Punishment is pains inflicted for the wrongful acts done. Discipline has a future expectation of building us up that we may be better after it. Discipline has two kinds. One is corrective and the other is building up.

  • The corrective kind: We have committed sin and we suffered for it but God wants us to learn from it and grow up to be a better person. 
  • The development kind: We may not have committed any sin, but we discipline our bodies that we may become stronger. 
Sadly, for the people in Amos' time, it was the corrective kind. God used the sufferings to try to wake the people up. It was a long and painful process despite the repeated calls of God to seek Him and be saved.

Their sins: 
  • Amo 2:4  ... because they have despised the law of the LORD, and have not kept his commandments, and their lies caused them to err, after the which their fathers have walked:
  • Amo 2:6 ... because they sold the righteous for silver, and the poor for a pair of shoes; 7  That pant after the dust of the earth on the head of the poor, and turn aside the way of the meek: and a man and his father will go in unto the same maid, to profane my holy name: 8  And they lay themselves down upon clothes laid to pledge by every altar, and they drink the wine of the condemned in the house of their god. 
  • Amo 2:12  But ye gave the Nazarites wine to drink; and commanded the prophets, saying, Prophesy not. 
  • Amo 3:10  For they know not to do right, saith the LORD, who store up violence and robbery in their palaces. 
Their repentance was not recorded in Amos but in other parts of the Bible. It ends with great blessings in Amos 9:11-15 the restoration of Israel and great prospersity. 

It is God whose mercy and love that will save us. It is not us seeking God but rather God reaching out to us. For those of us who are going through the dark hours of trials, and even of our wrong doings, let us be encouraged that God is with us through them, and His blessings that will come is beyond our imagination. 

Read carefully again Amos 9:13, His blessings are out of the ordinary. They are supernatural miracle. Because the normal stages of planting and reaping are all mixed up. The abundance would be so much that the mountains and hills could not contain but overflow with them.

Be not discouraged, whatever the trails, whatever sins, repent and look-up and see the love and mercy of God. Stay true to be with God and see His salvation.

May this coming Christmas be a time of breakthrough for you.

Lim Liat(c) 13 Dec 2016